Grief Isn’t Something to Get Over — It’s Something to Carry Differently
There’s a moment after loss—once the casseroles stop coming, the texts slow down, and life is supposed to “go back to normal”—when the weight of grief settles in deeper. It’s not always loud. Sometimes it’s a quiet ache, an anniversary you forgot to forget, or the way your chest tightens when someone says, “You seem better.”
If you’ve ever felt like your grief is taking too long, like you're doing it wrong, or like the world expects you to “move on” while your heart still whispers their name—this space is for you.
The Myth of "Moving On"
We live in a culture that tries to tidy up grief. "Five stages and you're done," some say. "Time heals all wounds," others offer. But what if grief isn’t something we finish? What if it's something we learn to live with, to carry differently, to honor?
Continuing bonds theory suggests that it’s natural and even healthy to maintain a connection with someone we’ve lost. That connection might look like speaking their name, visiting a place that reminds you of them, or doing something meaningful on their birthday. None of this means you're stuck in the past. It means your love didn’t end—and neither does your story with them. Megan Devine, in It's OK That You're Not OK, writes:
“Grief is not a problem to be solved; it’s an experience to be carried.”
What Grief Can Really Look Like
Grief doesn’t always look like sobbing in the dark. It can show up as anger at everything and nothing. As exhaustion that sleep won’t fix. As forgetting simple things or feeling like you're moving through fog. It can show up months or even years later, triggered by a smell, a song, or a shift in season.
For many, grief gets tangled with trauma, especially if the loss was sudden, complicated, or layered with other life transitions. Becoming a parent after a miscarriage. Losing a pet during a time of deep loneliness. Facing illness while mourning. All of these moments can deepen grief’s impact and make it even harder to name and navigate.
How Therapy Can Help
Therapy offers a space to unfold the story of your loss, gently and at your own pace. We explore the emotions you may feel shame around—rage, guilt, relief, numbness—and we create room for them. There’s no "should" in this space, only truth and compassion.
Together, we might:
Identify how grief is showing up in your body and daily life
Use EMDR to process overwhelming memories or trauma linked to the loss
Explore themes or practices to honor your grief and your person
Introduce journaling or creative expression as a safe outlet
A Gentle Invitation - You don’t have to do this alone.
There is no timeline for your healing, no right way to grieve. But there are supportive ways to walk through it—ways that make room for your story, your love, and your growth.
If you’re ready to talk, I’m here. I offer a free 15-minute consultation to help you see if this feels like a good fit. You can also learn more about my approach to grief therapy here .
Let’s carry it together.
How Restoring Heart and Home can support you in your grief journey:
Grief Therapy
Grief can feel like an invisible weight—affecting your body, your thoughts, your relationships. Therapy offers a safe, steady space to name your loss, express the emotions that feel too big (or too silent), and begin to carry your grief in ways that feel more manageable.
EMDR Therapy for Grief/Trauma
Sometimes, grief is complicated by trauma—an unexpected phone call, a traumatic birth, or a goodbye you never got to say. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful, research-supported therapy that can help process painful memories and reduce the emotional intensity tied to your loss. It’s gentle, structured, and tailored to your pace.
Perinatal Therapy
If you’ve experienced infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, or the heartbreaking loss of a child, you are not alone. Perinatal grief is often minimized—but your pain is real and valid. In therapy, we hold space for both the deep ache and your strength. We’ll work together to honor your loss, support your nervous system, and find healing that doesn't require you to forget.
Who I Work With
Maryland Residents
In-person sessions available in Westminster, MD, or virtual sessions from the comfort of your home.
Pennsylvania Residents
Virtual therapy available statewide—convenient, secure, and just as connected.
Grief Resources:
Website & Books: https://whatsyourgrief.com/ >> “You don’t have to grieve alone. What’s Your Grief is a place for sharing, support, resources, & more.”
Book: “It’s Okay That You’re Not Okay” by Megan Devine